Love The One You're With

In order to get the body you want, you have to love the one you have today.

That is some sound advice, but when you are staring in the mirror - and not liking what you see, it can be hard to find a way to love the body you have.

I have been trying different ways to explain to my clients how this works, but not quite getting them to jump on board with the "love".

Now I think I got it!

This weekend I was cleaning my house, and thinking about how much I love this house.  I do not want to move - ever.  However, I noticed that the walls needed painting, the floors need to be refinished, and I would love to make some changes - adding french doors from the kitchen to the deck, and adding on a cozy den, with an upstairs library...

So my house isn't perfectly what I want for me and my family, but I love it and I am looking forward to making the changes to make it perfect.  If I didn't love this house, I would not want to invest the time and effort and money to make perfect (according to my vision).

This is how it works with loving your body you have now - recognizing that all the foundation elements are there.  There is no place to move to, but you have the option to make changes - change hair color, change diet, lose/gain weight.

So to begin the transformation start with this simple mantra: 
"Even though I _(fill in the thing that you find unsatisfactory)____, I totally love and respect myself.

Example, "Even though I did not exercise today as I planned, I totally love and respect myself."

So, love the one (body) you're with.

Let me know if this worked for you - leave a comment.

Make Space For Your Dreams & Wishes

Reclaim your day, reclaim your life.  Your life is what you are doing now, and not what you want to be doing or wish you could be doing.   How did you spend today?  How much fun did you have?  How much of your day was focused on your personal passion or purpose?  Do you even know where the time went?  If you are like most people - you ran along with your day, or rather, you ran behind it - barely keeping up.  Many of us want a life that is a happier, more interesting, reflection of who we are and what we are all about.  It is not that we do not try, every January, we make resolutions, and every February, we fall off the wagon, and don’t try to get back on until January comes along again. 

We can all live happy, bubbling-over-with-joy lives every single day. Notice, I did not say perfect-without-challenges-or-disappointment lives.  It starts with knowing where you are now.  Only then, can you identify what stays, and what can be changed, deleted or improved. Only then, can you start adding the ‘dreams’ and ‘wishes’.  It really is that simple.

On Serene Serendipity.com, I have posted questions and downloadable forms, which can help anyone identify how they are spending their time, and how they are feeling as they move through the 'stuff' that is their current life.  It takes commitment (not just trying).  Seven days, just one-week of self observation.  Awareness is a powerful catalyst for change.  I know, because it changed my life, even as I was conducting the “research”, I was identifying areas ripe for change.

Here is how it works: 

• Make a list of Wishes and Regrets (covered in my last blog Wishes & Regrets)
• Commit to a thorough self evaluation for 7-days Track your time ‘spent’ on various tasks during the course of the day  
• Complete a daily log – which covers how you felt, what you wore, what you ate, who you spent time with, among other things. 
• At the end of each day you could color-in the 24-segment pie-chart – which will give a  "day in the life".

You will make some surprising discoveries about yourself and your life.  I realized that I did not do as much domestic related work as I had thought I did (I checked the figures twice!).  I realized that grocery shopping took about,  one and a half  hours because I wandered  around “just looking”.  I also found out that I drive about 3-hours every day!

I discovered, that my life was filled with opportunities to include my personal passion and purpose.  My personal happiness and fulfillment positively affects the people around me.  So this investment is worth it and you already have everything you need to start your Life Evaluation today.  Serendipity wants to help - just give her space.